I joined TBTH as a freshman

07 Aug I joined TBTH as a freshman

My name is Lara Dimassi, and I have worked with Take Back the Halls (TBTH) for the past three years. As I reflect on this chapter of my life, I’m filled with gratitude for an experience that has shaped my personal growth profoundly.  I joined TBTH as a freshman, and since then, it has been a constant source of support and purpose. I do not know college without TBTH; it has guided me through my first time living alone, my first breakup, and most importantly, my first real exposure to the language and tools of emotional regulation and domestic violence prevention.

TBTH is grounded in the philosophy of popular education, where learning is mutual and collective. I learned just as much from the students as they may have learned from me. Together, we explored questions and topics that were new to both of us. We did so in a space that was catered to all of our needs and where learning was encouraged. I am very grateful that both I and the students had access to this holy space where real impacts were made. 

What I love most about TBTH is how tangible the impact feels. Not every job offers the privilege of seeing your work make a difference, but here, I’ve witnessed real moments of transformation. Watching students carry themselves with greater confidence and awareness, hoping for and choosing healthier relationships. This is what I feel my purpose in life is, and it is beautiful to see this growth happen in real time. Not only are we giving students language to aid themselves and their relationships, but at TBTH we teach them how to pass this information onto others and how to make an impact within their own community. 

The impact of TBTH is not only outward, I have changed too. I’ve learned that emotional regulation and conflict resolution aren’t innate; they take effort, reflection, and intention. TBTH taught me that while unhealthy patterns are easy to fall into, it’s always possible to choose health, to choose happiness, and to grow. That is the most lasting lesson I will carry with me.